Society Sucks

Authors note: This is a creative piece that I wrote over a couple of days. It is about how society forces us to do things that we don't even realize they could be potentially hurting us. This is about why our society is bad for us. It tells us what looks good, when in reality it is hurting us. 





"Ew, you're not a size zero? That's Gross!" That's what society tell us is acceptable. Being so thin that you can see the outline of your bones. "Oh you don't wear makeup.." Society tell us that if you don't wear makeup you're not beautiful. "You don't have a boyfriend.." Society makes it seems like you are "forever alone," if you don't have a boyfriend. "You haven't had your first kiss?!" To society you are prude, but on other hands if you have had your first kiss you are "easy," to get with. We didn't choose to be this way, we were forced and molded to fit society's idea of perfection. When reality is who cares if you aren't a size 0? Who gives a crap if you wear makeup of not? You're not forever alone if you don't have a boyfriend. It doesn't matter if you have had your first kiss or not. Honestly, it is your life, you just need to make yourself happy, not society. 

The girls of today are being forced to diet and fast at younger and younger ages because they aren't "normal," according to society. There are proven facts that girls who starved themselves are more likely to develop an eating disorder. Girls that are admitted into anorexic facility s are getting younger and younger every year. Some girls that are admitted are as young as 8. I think one of the main factors is that they want to be society's definition of beautiful, Size 0 or smaller. These girls are 8, they haven't even hit puberty and they are worrying about their weight. Girls aspire to have the body of a model, tall and thin. To most girls the height doesn't even worry them. All they hear is thin. It is constantly reminding them, " You're striving to be thin. Do you want to be as skinny as her or not. Not eating makes you thinner. Don't eat no more calories. " When reality is that if you are not eating you are not losing weight at all. You are actually gaining weight. You store more fat calories in your body to help you from not starving. Being able to see all your rib bones also isn't perfection. It's like looking at a skeleton with a thin almost transparent layer of skin.

With being thin to the bone girls as little as 8 are wearing full blown makeup to school. With our society by that age they are insecure about their faces. Why should these little girls be insecure about their faces and bodies when they don't have zits or boobs yet? They have nothing that the other little girls their age don't have. Mother who wear makeup tend to influence their little girls to want to wear makeup because they always wear makeup and are never seen without it. I believe that  this makes the girls think that they must never ever been seen without makeup, even at that young of a age. They are showing up to school in full blow eyeliner and mascara. Then by the time they should be starting to wear makeup, they are wearing too much or wearing really dark colors making it look inappropriate. Girls are wearing makeup because society tells them that makeup is the only way to have "true beauty". What society also tells us about makeup is that you can't just wear a little you have to wear a lot if you want to look like the girls that advertise that makeup. 

Wearing makeup makes you "pretty," and you have to be "pretty," to have a boyfriend. I agree it is okay to have crushes in elementary but I don't think that it is okay to have a boyfriend when you are elementary school. Girls are more worried about having or not having a boyfriend than rather being focused on getting good grades and hanging out with your friends.  Girls are worried about this because even the 10-12 year old celebrities have boyfriends that they are “ in love,” with. This makes little girls think that they need to have a boyfriend to be cool. That if they want to be like the 10-12 year old celebrities. 

That is why girls want a boyfriend at such a young age, but then they get judged about what they do with their boyfriend. If they haven’t kisses they are lame and a loser. Some may even call them prude, but if they have done anything they are now all the sudden easy to get with. First of all, these girls are in elementary to middle school. Yes, must admit I think it is okay to kiss boys, but they shouldn’t be doing any more than that. For the ones in elementary they shouldn’t even know what things past maybe making out are. Second of all, it isn’t the whole worlds business if you have boyfriend or not and if you do if you have kissed or anything. In my opinion it is between you and your boyfriend and maybe your best friend who you can trust to keep that secret. 

No matter what we do or what we look like we can never please society. I think the only way we would be able to please it, is if everyone looked like a barbie, “Perfect.” You get judged no matter what you look like. What jean size you wear. If you have a boyfriend or not. Who you hang out with. Anything you could possibly think of you get judged on. Why must society do this to us? I doubt we will never know. Society should know something too, no one will ever be perfect or even close to it. Society isn’t perfect either.

Lies, Lies , And More Lies

Authors Note: This is my point of view piece. I used that song " 50 Ways To Say Goodbye," by the band Train. This piece is about how point of view effects how we see or interpret the song. If it was in a different point of view we would think different of the song. I have put the lyrics of the song below so you can see the whole song.   




"50 Ways To Say Goodbye"
            Train
My heart is paralyzed
My head was oversized
I'll take the high road like I should
You said it's meant to be
That it's not you, it's me
You're leaving now for my own good

That's cool, but if my friends ask where you are I'm gonna say

She went down in an airplane
Fried getting suntanned
Fell in a cement mixer full of quicksand
Help me, help me, I'm no good at goodbyes!
She met a shark under water
Fell and no one caught her
I returned everything I ever bought her
Help me, help me, I'm all out of lies
And ways to say you died

My pride still feels the sting
You were my everything
Someday I'll find a love like yours (a love like yours)
She'll think I'm Superman
Not super minivan
How could you leave on Yom Kippur?

That's cool, but if my friends ask where you are I'm gonna say

She was caught in a mudslide
Eaten by a lion
Got run over by a crappy purple Scion
Help me, help me, I'm no good at goodbyes!
She dried up in the desert
Drowned in a hot tub
Danced to death at an east side night club
Help me, help me, I'm all out of lies
And ways to say you died

I wanna live a thousand lives with you
I wanna be the one you're dying to love...
But you don't want to

That's cool, but if my friends ask where you are I'm gonna say
That's cool, but if my friends ask where you are I'm gonna say

She went down in an airplane
Fried getting suntanned
Fell in a cement mixer full of quicksand
Help me, help me, I'm no good at goodbyes!
She met a shark under water
Fell and no one caught her
I returned everything I ever bought her
Help me, help me, I'm all out of lies

She was caught in a mudslide
Eaten by a lion
Got run over by a crappy purple Scion
Help me, help me, I'm no good at goodbyes!
She dried up in the desert
Drowned in a hot tub
Danced to death at an east side night club
Help me, help me, I'm all out of lies
And ways to say you died


50 Ways To Say Goodbye was a song written by Train. It's about  his girlfriend broke up with him and he is ashamed to tell his friends so he says that she died and that he isn't devastated. The whole song is basically him thinking of as many ways to tell his friends how his ex "died". In the first stanza it says that she broke up with him because this head was over sized and that it was because he had her. It also says that she left him for his own good. The song was written in the boys point of view, he was heartbroken and didn't want to look like a loser or weak in front of his friends because his heart was broken. 

If the song was written in the girls point of view I think that the song would say how he was too cocky and braggy about what he had. So, she left him and she thought that leaving him would make him change to the way he was before. Instead of changing he tells everyone that she died and that he doesn’t really care for her anymore even though on the inside he is heartbroken and devastated. The girl is probably astonished that he would tell her that he loves her but then go off and tell his friends that he has no more feelings for her and isn’t upset at all. 

I think the girl would also be hurt because he lied to all of his friends and said that she died, instead of telling the truth by just saying that they broke up. In my mind he betrays her by making up useless lies about how she died. The ways that he says she dies aren’t even reasonable lies. “She was caught in a mudslide Eaten by a lion Got run over by a crappy purple Scion Help me, help me, I'm no good at goodbyes! She dried up in the desert Drowned in a hot tub  Danced to death at an east side night club” This is part of one stanza from the song, all of these are very unusual ways to die. 

50 Ways To Say Goodbye was written in the point of view of the heart broken or the boy. If it was written in the girls point of view the song would be totally different. The song could change so much just from changing the point of view it comes from,( or the person). Point of view matters, you may not realized it but it is in every piece of writing. Even in the sentences that come out of our very own mouths. The point of view of the song is that he is heartbroken yet.

You can get through anything

Authors note: Theme loss of Innocence. This is about how in the book speak Melinda losses her innocence and how she over powers the judgement of her peers. 

Within one night she had gone from being a nobody to a somebody, that everyone hated. Melinda would do anything to take that night back. She thought she was "cool" because she was a freshman, a freshman invited to a senior party. Senior parties are the "best" part of the whole high school experience, alcohol, popular girls, popular boys, maybe even a place where you can "hook up" with someone. Melinda being a freshman was more excited and nervous than ever. She fell into peer pressure and got drunk, she thought it was going to be the best night of her life. A boy and her went into the woods. She was so drunk she couldn't make the name face connection. She thought they were going to make out and it was going to be fun. At first that's all that happened. Within a instant she was thrown to the floor with him reaching for her zipper. She didn't want this to happen. For the record she didn't even know what he was going to do to her. In the book Speak, by Laurie Halse Anderson, Melinda lost her "innocence", which caused her to be an outcast among her friend. We learn that, even though we might go through hard times, we should never give up.  

Melinda was raped, by a stranger, no, a peer that she would be in classes with. She was scared, mortified, nerveless terrified. If anyone found out, she feared that she would become the schools' "whore". That people would only want her for body and what she would do to them not for what who she really was.  She felt like she had become the kid in elementary school that had a cel phone, everyone's eyes were on her. Except this was different. She was no longer a "goodie goodie".

Melinda had also lost her innocence of being a child, having fun. That night was the night she lost her nights playing with her friends.  No more little kid this little kid that.  There was no more mom there to kiss your knee when you fall down, no more mom to bring you warm milk when you can't sleep, and no more Santa it was all gone.She was in high school.  It was time for her to take responsibly for her actions. She had lost the innocence of having friends that are there for no matter what. This was high school where friends where there when your life was good and not when it wasn't, will talk behind your back to some one else, and get jealous. 

Melinda lost herself also she lost her life, her friends, to personally, everything. She was depressed and was on a road to now where.  She was lost in her own world where she was alone and had no where and no one to go to. She lost it, she hurt herself, she felt as if it was better than feeling the pain. Seeing the blood fall down her arms in droplets took her mind to other places. For a second she was focused on nothing other than the ruby red color of her fresh blood dropping slowly down her wrist. She lost her innocence of herself, she had been in so much pain it was almost better to have the cuts and bruises than to feel her heartbreak into a million little pieces. 

Melinda, lost herself for some time. She didn't know where she was to go. She kept pushing through and finally she made it through. She was terrified all the way through. She never gave up and she got where she wanted to be. She learned that true friends wont judge her for what happened to her that they will stick with you through thick and thin. She learned who any people thought nothing of her because she lost her virginity. She lost herself. She lost everything. Melinda pushed through and at the end of the tunnel there was light.